68 Better Get To Know You Questions For Kids

A child seldom needs a good talking to as much as a good listening to.– Robert Brault

Switch roles with your child for a day and become the one asking the questions, not answering them.

See where it takes you.

Listening to your child is key if you want to understand them and ultimately be deeply connected to them.

Children often struggle to communicate their emotions and experiences, making it challenging for them to be heard.

As the mother of a neurodivergent child, I know the immense benefit of truly listening to my children. Our relationship blossomed when I finally understood the power of listening.

Open-ended questions are a great way to get your children talking and hopefully avoid one-word answers.

Questions that start with a what, how, when leave more room for a conversation to open up.

If you are ready to get to know your kids better with some insightful and fun questions, here they are.

Get To Know You Questions For Kids

• What’s your favorite thing to do on a weekend?
• If you could choose any superpower, what would it be?
• You found a magic wand. What would you do first?
• Can you tell me about a time you were bursting with happiness?
• How would you like to celebrate your next birthday?
• What’s something that you’re curious about and would love to learn more about?
• If you could create your own world, what would it look like?
• What’s the funniest thing that happened this week?
• What do you like to do at your favorite place?
• Who is your favorite Disney character (or any cartoon character)?
• What’s something you’ve always wanted to learn how to do?
• Who’s your favorite superhero?
• Would you prefer to go to the deepest part of the ocean, the top of the tallest mountain or into outer space?
• Where did you meet your best friend?
• What’s a talent or skill you wish you had?
• Can you tell me about a time when you felt really scared or nervous?
• What’s something that always makes you laugh, no matter what?
• If you could only eat one type of food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• What would you put in your own super special flavor of ice cream?
• What’s something you’re really good at?
• What is your favorite animal and why do you like them so much?
• How did you feel on your first day of school?
• What is your favorite movie to watch with friends?
• What would you like me to stop asking you about?
• Can you describe your perfect day from start to finish?
• What’s something that you’re finding hard to do?
• If you could invent your own video games, what would they do?
• Can you tell me about a time when you felt so excited you couldn’t sit still?
• What would you do with a whole week of free time?
• You find a time machine in the garden. Where would you go to the future or the past?
• How would you like to spend your summer days?
• How does your favorite book make you feel?

Funny Questions For Younger Children

• Who is your favorite soft toy?
• Where are your feet?
• How did you learn to dance?
• What new name would you give yourself if you were a superhero?
• What are you super good at?
• What food do you really hate?
• What is a fun way to get across the room?
• What’s the funniest thing you can do?
• What is your favorite color?
• What’s the best thing about being you?

Get to know you questions for older kids.

• What’s your favorite quote?
• What’s something that you feel really passionate about right now?
• How would you tell your friend to deal with a tricky situation?
• If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
• What’s something you wish adults understood better about teenagers today?
• What is your least favorite subject at school?
• What gets you out of bed easily in the morning?
• What are the top three songs on your playlist right now?
• What is the most important thing on a pizza?
• What is your go to positive affirmation?
• What’s something that you feel really proud of doing?
• How do you like to relax?
• How does a certain famous person inspire you?
• What is a favorite book, movie or show that has made you think?
• If you could learn any new skill, what would it be and why?
• What’s something you’ve learned recently that surprised you?
• What’s your favorite family Christmas memory?
• You’re stranded on a deserted island. What would you need to survive and escape?
• What is your favorite song right now?
• What new holiday ideas could you share with me for our next vacation?
• What is your favorite tv show nowadays?
• What’s your favorite season? Do you prefer the warmer or cooler months?
• If you could spend a day doing anything you wanted, what would it look like?
• What is your best memory from a favorite holiday we took?
• What is your favorite food to eat on a sunny weekend day?

Why getting to know your kids matters?

Having a strong connection with your children is the basis of your relationship.

When you know what makes your child tick and you pay attention to what they are saying, they are more likely to open up to you and trust you.

As I soon will have a teenager in the house, this has never been more important to me. I remember my teenage years all too well. My parents had a lot of patience.

With the right questions, you might gain insights from your child that could help your relationship grow.

When should I ask these get to know you questions for kids?

If you like a slow morning, then first thing in the morning over breakfast might be great. Or maybe you prefer chatting at the dinner table. You could use these as conversation starters when you are having a walk or doing some crafts together.

There’s no right or best way to ask your children these questions. I doubt many teenagers would like you to ask them icebreaker questions whilst playing video games, but I might be wrong!

What if my child doesn’t enjoy talking?

But have you heard of special time? It’s a parenting concept that caught my eye many years ago and we quickly made it a regular part of our week.

Just take some time, 5-15 minutes several times a week, where you pay special attention to one child. Don’t ask questions, let them lead and don’t direct the play or activity.

I have found often during special time, my neurodivergent child would start a conversation and give me insights I hadn’t heard before.

Even if special time remains mostly silent, giving that focused attention without directing them is the best gift you could give to your child.

What to ask a ten year old?

I would pick a few questions from the main list and one from the younger kids and older children list too. 10-year-olds are in that delicate in between tween stage, not actually a teenager, not a young child but balancing somewhere in between.

Do you have any brilliant get you know you questions for kids that should be on this list?

Let me know in the comments below and they could make the next update.

Happy talking.

Amanda x